OK, i don’t watch WE (women’s entertainment) much. But Dharma and Greg is on that channel. And then the On Demand had a show called The Secret Lives of Women: Child Brides that was from WE, and I downloaded it and watched it Friday morning while snuggling my two sleeping babes.
It was an interesting show, but the reason I mention it here is a woman raised in traditional Hmong culture, where her parents arranged a marriage for her at 14 or so. She, being American and going to an American school, etc., really resented it and ended up leaving her husband because she just was not attracted to him (and then he got mean about it). It got me thinking about arranged marriages in general. From the reading I’ve done on the subject (which has not been extensive by any means), it would seem that as long as both partners are reasonable and decent humans, it actually works out OK. I mean, if either or both are stupid jerks, it’s not going to work out, but then neither would a regular marriage probably be that great, either.
Another Child Bride from the show is still married to her husband and she’s like 50 now. He became an alcoholic during their marriage and then stopped drinking also, and they lived through it and worked it out. Leaving was just never an option for her, and she reports that she is very happy. They certainly seemed affectionate.
And Thursday, Jan Mickelson had an interesting reading. Unfortunately, it got interrupted by a call from a customer so I missed part of it, but it was a reading from a book “Ask Me Anything” by J. Budziszewski. It’s in the second hour from the Podcast. It was retelling a story of when a young male student approached the author asking if he could discuss WHY God reserved sex for marriage. The young man was saying that he certainly wasn’t trying to second-guess God, but he thought it might be easier to keep that little requirement if he understood why.
In the course of the discussion, the author said something about Love. It would be silly to base a marriage on a promise to feel love, because we can’t promise to have feelings for ever. Anyway, the whole discussion was a great one, so there’s the link up there.
These thoughts are more jumbled than I meant. They all fit together so nicely in my head but I’m so tired today and trying to type before the battery on Randy’s laptop runs out.