I’ve been watching 18 kids and counting reruns lately. And then I wanted to look for an update on the newest baby, a preemie, and came across the TLC-sponsored 18 kids and counting message board. Holy cow, that’s a lot of haters.
But what mostly irritated me was the continual comments to the effect of: the kids, especially the girls, are not being adequately prepared for life. Their parents do not allow them to go to school. They don’t allow them to learn a trade. etc.
Um, what? Yes, everyone knows that public school really thoroughly prepares you to live on your own at the age of 18.
They are all homeschooled and, as such, are probably getting a better education than their PS peers. They have learned many practical things just from their life – building, cooking. The two oldest kids have started their own businesses.
And the girls are learning really valuable skills in running a family, being a wife, etc. And as much as feminists want to put that down, I think those are valuable skills that too few women have a chance to learn. I know I didn’t, and I wish I had. It’s honestly really freaking hard to have a good marriage when you didn’t grow up in a functioning household.
I don’t think the girls are currently learning a trade (though i don’t know), but, heck, neither did I. Neither did ANYONE I know at that age (16-18). Several of my HS friends went on to college right away like I did, but with a few exceptions, we were all pretty directionless. Some of my HS friends were even more directionless than I and ended up dropping out of college, wasting both time and money. Some of my HS friends were smarter and knew they didn’t know what they’d study in college, so they didn’t go… they just got jobs. Not a single one remained living with their parents, and to the best of my knowledge, all are responsible members of society.
So I don’t get all the hype and negativity. Their parents don’t “let” them go to school. argh.
I’m not saying everyone should be like the Duggars. But I don’t understand all the hate. (And actually I know several people who are all “oh, we shouldn’t be so judgemental of others, have an open mind, blah blah” who turn around and bash this family. Whatever, people.)